Do you think that a loved one may be struggling with suicidal thoughts or ideation? Does your loved one openly tell you that they aren’t ok? Supporting someone who may be struggling with suicidal thoughts can be challenging and emotional, but it’s an important step in helping them find the professional aid they need. At Delray Brain Science, we believe in the power of understanding. Knowing what to say—and what not to say—can make a difference. But, how can one go about offering support and opening a dialogue with someone who may be experiencing suicidal ideation?

Start the Conversation with Care

The first step is often the hardest: initiating the conversation. Choose a private, comfortable setting where the person feels safe. Express your concern in a non-judgmental and supportive manner.

What to say:

• “I’ve noticed that you seem really down lately, and I want to check in. How are you really feeling?”
• “It seems like you’ve been going through a tough time. I’m here for you if you want to talk about it.”

Be Direct but Gentle

If you suspect that the person is considering suicide, it’s important to ask directly. Avoid euphemisms or vague language, as it’s important to clearly understand their situation.

What to say:

• “Sometimes when people are feeling overwhelmed, they might think about ending their life. Have you been feeling like that?”
• “I want to make sure you’re safe. Have you had thoughts about hurting yourself or ending your life?”

Listen Without Judgment

Once the person begins to share their feelings, listen attentively without interrupting. Avoid making judgments or offering unsolicited advice. The goal is to provide a safe space for them to express their emotions.

What to say:

• “I’m here to listen. Please take your time.”
• “Thank you for sharing this with me. I can’t imagine how hard this is for you.”

Offer Reassurance and Hope

It’s important to remind the person that they are not alone and that help is available. Reassure them that their feelings are valid and that there is hope for recovery.

What to say:

• “You’re not alone in this. I’m here for you, and there are professionals who can help.”
• “It’s okay to feel this way, but there are ways to feel better. Let’s find some support together.”

Encourage Professional Help

While offering personal support is important, encouraging the person to seek professional help is imperative. Therapy, medication, and other interventions can provide significant support for those struggling with suicidal thoughts.

What to say:

• “Have you thought about talking to a therapist or counselor? They can offer the support and guidance you need.”
• “There are treatments available that can help you feel better. Let’s look into finding a therapist together.”

Follow Up and Stay Connected

Maintaining contact and checking in regularly shows ongoing support and concern. Let the person know that you are there for them and that you care about their well-being.

What to say:

• “I’m going to check in with you tomorrow and see how you’re doing. Is that okay?”
• “Let’s plan to hang out or chat regularly. I want to make sure you’re doing okay.”

Know When to Seek Emergency Help

If the person expresses a clear plan or intention to harm themselves, it’s important to seek immediate help. Do not leave them alone, and contact emergency services or a crisis helpline.

What to say:

• “I’m really worried about you. I think we need to get some immediate help. Can we call a helpline together?”
• “I care about you too much to let anything happen. Let’s go to the emergency room or call a crisis service.”

Help for People in Suicidal Crisis at Delray Brain Science

Talking to someone who may be struggling with suicidal thoughts is a delicate but important task. By approaching the conversation with empathy, directness, and a willingness to listen, you can make a big impact. At Delray Brain Science, we offer a number of treatment options for those experiencing suicidal ideation, including therapy, medication, and innovative treatments like Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS) and ketamine infusion therapy. If you or someone you know needs support, reach out today.